Age is nothing but a number 4

Court recently said in a comment “I never thought that I could be attracted to an older man until I met my lover, who’s 15 years older than me. In general, I still go for men my age, and if things go south I’ll date young, but this man… my god. It’s some sort of George Clooney type fluke.”

I did date a guy (briefly-total stalker) who was 20 years older than I was. When I was 19. So I’m not saying I would never date someone much older than I am but…

Age is nothing but a number 3

I was so happy to find out that the Keebler Elf was moving back to Virginia or wherever he came from. I could go to work knowing that I wasn’t going to have to make excuses for why I didn’t want to do out with someone. He was leaving in two weeks.

For two weeks he asked me to move to Virginia with him.

Age is nothing but a number 2

I never, ever should have opened my mouth and told the Keebler Elf that I was planning on leaving my (soon to be ex) Husband or why I was leaving. I don’t really have an explanation for why other than I hadn’t really told anyone (other than my friend Cat) at that point, and I was unusually jumpy and depressed.

And asked what was wrong and I told him.

That was when he started hitting on me.

Age is nothing but a number

Yeah, right. Let’s get real here. This might work for certain people-Brad Pitt, George Clooney or Johnny Depp-but for most people this is just not true. It’s not so much an age thing as it is an attraction thing. Generally I, and most of the girls I know, are not attracted to guys that much older than I am. Because most guys (and girls as well) don’t look like Brad, George or Johnny (or the female equivalent) as they age.

The person saying that age is nothing but a number, or somehow trying to convince me that age is unimportant, is generally way older than I.

And looks like a goddamn Keebler Elf.

I don’t understand people’s desire to settle

When I talk about settling, I’m talking about settling for less than what you want. Unfortunately, I want it all.

My friends have said that physical attraction and sexual prowess are of little importance in a relationship. I guess it all depends on what you’re looking for or what you’re willing to compromise on, but I disagree. I guess we have different expectations and desires. I’ve also been told that I’m too picky.

First Dates Suck

Which is why they usually don’t make it to second dates. At least in my case. First impressions really matter to me. And it might be kind of hard to make a good first impression when everyone is nervous and we don’t know each other at all due to the whole online dating thing.

So here are some of the reasons that first dates suck. And what I’d like to see improved in my own dating life.

Talking to Girls 2

If you ever wanna feel better about yourself, visit a minority majority neighborhood. Seriously. White guys are afraid to talk to girls, black men will talk to anyone. So when a guy talks to you, don’t look at him because then you won’t know if he’s ugly or not, pretend he’s hot and take whatever comes out of his mouth as a compliment.

Because he must have meant it as a compliment, right?

Talking to Girls

Is it just me, or do guys not know how to talk to girls? Not that I bother talking to guys, mind you. I always figure that even if I find someone attractive there will be at least one thing about him that I can’t stand. (GO OPTIMISM!!!)

In my world, guys rarely get it right. I’m gonna be a little racist and stereotype people here in a second. (GO ME!!!)

What I miss most

I was thinking about this the other day when I was with Dreads. It’s that relationship thing that happens. That thing that switches off in the guys head when he realizes you’ll be back again and again.

And you become a piece of furniture-convenient to have around when he wants to use you, but otherwise…ignored.

Sometimes people just aren’t what you expect

Attraction is important, and, in the online world, all we can rely on are the pictures these guys (or girls if I swung that way) use.

Sometimes these pictures are not accurate representations of what people look like. Sometimes the pictures are from a few (hundred) years ago. Or it’s only a face shot and you may not be expecting the person that you are meeting to look like an ogre body-wise. (Yeah, that has happened. I’ll explain below.) Or if may be the only good picture that someone has ever taken of them and it somehow looks nothing like them. (This is possible, I’ve seen it happen.)